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“I, (Bride/Groom), take you (Groom/Bride), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.”

Let’s consider the “for better or for worse” part, and the implications of a prenuptial agreement at the wedding altar. With a prenup, you’re not accepting someone for better or worse because you’re not even accepting that person for what they are - rich or poor. You may be accepting everything about your spouse from now on, but you’re not accepting the betterness or worseness of their life up until the time of your marriage.

Some might argue that “from this day forward,” means starting now, but a person’s now depends solely upon surviving what has come before. If you accept a person’s now, you accept their life up until now. There is no now in this life without what has come before. It is only what has occurred in your life that brings you to now.

So, if you can’t accept your spouse as they are, even though it might imply a riskier financial future, don’t get married. Have a shack up ceremony or a big party where you declare long term intentions. Why would you even want to marry someone you can’t trust?

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If you insist upon gettng married with a prenuptial agreement to keep your ass covered, alter the marriage vow to reflect that you can’t really trust your spouse not to be a snake in the grass. The throat clearing approach might work: “I, (Bride/Groom), take you (Groom/Bride), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, (….cough cough cough….) to love and to cherish until death do us part.”

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